The best polyamory and ENM dating apps in 2026

Updated October 2026. Facts checked on 26 October 2026.

The short answer

There is no single best app, because the apps are built for different things. Feeld has by far the most people. OkCupid is the biggest mainstream app with a proper non-monogamy setting. 3Fun is built around couples and singles meeting together. Plura is built around local events. Blend, which we make, is built only for ethical non-monogamy, with linked partner and group profiles and end-to-end encrypted chat, but it is new and small. Many poly people use two or three of these at once.

At a glance

All six are free to download and start using.

The apps, one by one

Feeld: the biggest community

Feeld is the app most ENM people have heard of. Its website says 14M+ people, which a footnote describes as registered accounts (Sensor Tower, February 2026), and its Android app has more than 5 million downloads. You can link your profile with up to five other people, a feature Feeld now calls Constellations; each person keeps their own account, chats and matches. Feeld offers more than 20 gender identities and 20 sexualities, Desires to show what you are into, group chats, biometric identity verification and a 24/7 safety team.

Worth knowing: seeing who liked you is part of Majestic, the paid tier ($29.99 for 30 days, $49.99 for 90 days or $149.99 for a year on the US App Store). Feeld covers kink and casual dating as well as ENM, and we did not find end-to-end encryption mentioned on the pages we checked.

Blend: made only for ethical non-monogamy (ours)

Blend is a dating and community app built only for ENM. Partners link their profiles with consent, couples and groups can run a profile together, and every profile shows relationship structure, what you are looking for and your boundaries. One-to-one and group chats are end-to-end encrypted. Seeing everyone who liked you, unlimited messaging, and voice and video calls are free. There is a Games tab for matches and partners, and ENM events where hosts run room-wide games that guests join with a QR code.

Worth knowing: Blend launched in 2026 from a small team in Ottawa, Canada, so depending on where you live you may see few people. On iPhone it is a web app you add to your Home Screen, not an App Store download.

3Fun: couples and singles together

3Fun is built for couples and singles who want to meet together. Couples can share one account and chat together, or link with a partner, and you can start group chats with your partner and matches. Its listing says messaging your matches is free. On safety and privacy it lists verified photos, private photos visible only to matches, incognito mode and the option to hide your distance. Its Android app has more than 1 million downloads.

Worth knowing: VIP costs $29.99 for one month or $39.99 for three months on the US App Store. 3Fun focuses on couples meeting people more than on poly relationship structures, and we did not find end-to-end encrypted chat mentioned.

OkCupid: mainstream, with a non-monogamy setting

OkCupid is a large mainstream app (50M+ downloads on Android) that lets you set your relationship type to non-monogamous. If you do, its help centre says you will only see people who are non-monogamous or open to it, and people who are partnered can only choose non-monogamous. It also works in a web browser.

Worth knowing: OkCupid allows one profile per person. Its help centre says couple or joint profiles are not allowed and suggests mentioning your partners in your profile instead.

Plura (formerly Bloom Community): events first

Plura is an events-first social and dating app for queer, polyamorous, kink and other alternative communities. You meet through local events, then connect as “Buds” with mutual opt-in, so there are no unsolicited messages. Its FAQ says it launches city by city, so it may be quiet outside the cities it serves.

Worth knowing: Plura+ costs $24.99 for a month, $47.99 for three months or $71.99 for six months on the US App Store, and includes seeing who likes you and discounts on ticketed events. We did not find partner linking described.

helloPOLY (formerly PolyFinda)

helloPOLY is a community app for ENM, polyamorous and kink-curious people, with a shibari focus and events rooted in Melbourne, where its website says it has run since 2014. You can filter by relationship style and interests.

Worth knowing: Premium costs $29.99 for a month, $39.99 for three months or $59.99 for six months on the US App Store. Couple memberships exist, but we did not find partner linking described.

What about #open?

#open (listed in stores as “#Open: ENM IRL”) used to appear on most of these lists. When we checked on 26 October 2026, we could not find it in the Apple App Store or on Google Play: the store links on its website led to “not found” pages, although the website itself is still online. We have not seen a statement from the company, so check its website for the latest. See Blend vs #open.

How to choose

• You live in a big city and want the most people: start with Feeld, and add OkCupid.
• You date as a couple or polycule and want that visible: look at apps with linking: Blend, Feeld or 3Fun.
• You would rather meet in person first: try Plura, or Blend’s events.
• You want to spend nothing: all six are free to start, but what is free differs. On Blend, seeing who liked you is free; on Feeld and Plura it is part of the paid tier.
• Privacy matters most: Blend states that one-to-one and group chats are end-to-end encrypted. We did not find that claim on the other apps’ pages we checked.

Whatever you choose, say up front that you are ethically non-monogamous, and if you are partnered, say so. Our ENM dating safety guide covers meeting new people safely.

Questions

Sources

1. Feeld homepage, accessed 26 October 2026.
2. Feeld help: how paired accounts (Constellations) work, accessed 26 October 2026.
3. Feeld on the US App Store, accessed 26 October 2026.
4. Feeld on Google Play, accessed 26 October 2026.
5. 3Fun on the US App Store, accessed 26 October 2026.
6. 3Fun on Google Play, accessed 26 October 2026.
7. 3Fun website, accessed 26 October 2026.
8. OkCupid help: Non-Monogamy on OkCupid, accessed 26 October 2026.
9. OkCupid help: paid features, accessed 26 October 2026.
10. OkCupid on Google Play, accessed 26 October 2026.
11. Plura on the US App Store, accessed 26 October 2026.
12. Plura FAQ, accessed 26 October 2026.
13. helloPOLY website, accessed 26 October 2026.
14. helloPOLY on the US App Store, accessed 26 October 2026.
15. #open website, accessed 26 October 2026.
16. About Blend, for every fact about Blend on this page.