Community Guidelines

Last updated: January 15, 2026

Blend is built by and for the ethical non-monogamy community. These guidelines exist to keep our space safe, respectful, and welcoming for everyone—regardless of relationship structure, identity, or experience level.

Our Core Values

💜 Authenticity

Be yourself. Be honest about who you are, what you're looking for, and your relationship situation. The ENM community thrives on transparency.

🤝 Consent

Consent is the foundation of ethical non-monogamy. This applies to every interaction on Blend—from messaging to partner linking to meeting in person.

💬 Communication

Clear, honest communication prevents misunderstandings and builds trust. Say what you mean, ask clarifying questions, and don't assume.

🌈 Respect

Our community includes people of all identities, orientations, and relationship structures. Treat everyone with respect, even if their approach differs from yours.

Be Authentic

Use Real, Recent Photos

  • All photos should clearly show your face
  • Photos should be from the last 2 years
  • No heavy filters that significantly alter your appearance
  • No photos of other people as your main profile photo

Be Honest About Your Situation

  • Accurately represent your relationship status
  • Be upfront about what you're looking for
  • Don't pretend to be single if you're not
  • Disclose relevant information before meeting

Partner Linking

  • Only link partners who have explicitly consented
  • Ensure your partners know you're on Blend
  • Don't pressure others into linking

Practice Consent

Respect Boundaries

  • Accept "no" gracefully—the first time
  • Don't continue messaging someone who hasn't responded
  • Don't unmatch and rematch to get around blocks
  • Respect people's stated limits and preferences

Ask Before Escalating

  • Get consent before sending explicit content
  • Ask before moving to other platforms or meeting IRL
  • Check in about comfort levels in games and conversations

Don't Pressure

  • No guilt-tripping about response times
  • No pressuring for photos, personal info, or meetings
  • No ultimatums or manipulation tactics

Communicate Clearly

Be Direct

  • State your intentions and expectations clearly
  • Ask questions instead of making assumptions
  • If you're no longer interested, it's okay to say so

Handle Rejection Gracefully

  • Not every match will lead to a connection—that's normal
  • Don't lash out when rejected
  • Don't demand explanations or "closure"

Show Respect

Identity Respect

  • Use people's correct names and pronouns
  • Don't question or invalidate anyone's identity
  • Respect all relationship structures as equally valid
  • Don't gatekeep what counts as "real" polyamory or ENM

Treat Partners Equally

  • Don't disparage someone's other partners
  • Respect metamour boundaries
  • Understand that hierarchical and non-hierarchical relationships are both valid

No Discrimination

Blend has zero tolerance for discrimination based on:

  • Race, ethnicity, or national origin
  • Gender identity or expression
  • Sexual orientation
  • Disability
  • Religion
  • Body type or appearance
  • Relationship structure or experience level

Prohibited Content

Never Allowed

  • Hate speech: Content promoting violence or hatred against any group
  • Harassment: Repeated unwanted contact, threats, or intimidation
  • Illegal content: Anything depicting or promoting illegal activities
  • Minor exploitation: Any content involving minors in a sexual context—instant permanent ban
  • Non-consensual content: Sharing intimate images without consent ("revenge porn")
  • Spam and scams: Commercial solicitation, phishing, financial scams
  • Impersonation: Pretending to be someone you're not

Profile Photos

Profile photos must not contain:

  • Nudity or sexually explicit content
  • Violence or gore
  • Minors (unless it's clearly a family photo and the profile is verified)
  • Illegal substances or paraphernalia
  • Hate symbols or offensive imagery

Private Messages

Even in private messages, you must not:

  • Send unsolicited explicit content without prior consent
  • Share others' private information
  • Make threats or engage in harassment
  • Attempt to solicit money or promote scams

Trust and Vouching

Honest Vouching

  • Only vouch for people you've actually met in person
  • Be honest in your vouches—safety depends on it
  • Don't trade vouches or vouch for strangers
  • Report fake or misleading vouches

Trust Scores

  • Trust scores are informational, not guarantees
  • A high trust score doesn't mean someone is safe
  • Always use your own judgment when meeting people

Events

Event Hosts

  • Accurately describe your event
  • Ensure your event complies with local laws
  • Take responsibility for attendee safety
  • Moderate your event chat appropriately

Event Attendees

  • Follow the host's guidelines and rules
  • Respect consent culture at all events
  • Report concerning behavior to hosts and Blend

Reporting and Enforcement

How to Report

If you experience or witness a violation:

  • In-app: Tap the "..." menu on any profile or message and select "Report"
  • Email: Contact safety@blendapp.com for urgent issues
  • Emergency: Contact local authorities if you're in immediate danger

What Happens When You Report

  1. Our moderation team reviews the report within 24 hours (usually faster)
  2. We investigate and gather evidence as needed
  3. We take appropriate action based on severity
  4. We may follow up with you for additional information

Enforcement Actions

Depending on severity, we may:

  • Warn: Issue a warning for first-time minor violations
  • Suspend: Temporarily suspend accounts (24 hours to 30 days)
  • Ban: Permanently ban users for serious or repeated violations
  • Report to authorities: Contact law enforcement for illegal activity

Appeals

If you believe an action was taken in error, you can appeal through the app or by emailing appeals@blendapp.com. Appeals are reviewed by a different moderator than the one who took the original action.

Safety Tips

Before Meeting

  • Video chat first to verify they match their photos
  • Tell a friend where you're going and who you're meeting
  • Use Blend's share location feature with a trusted contact
  • Trust your instincts—if something feels off, don't go

First Meeting

  • Meet in a public place
  • Arrange your own transportation
  • Keep your phone charged
  • Limit alcohol consumption
  • Have an exit plan

Ongoing Safety

  • Discuss STI status and testing before intimacy
  • Use Blend's consent checklist feature
  • Check in with partners about comfort and boundaries

A Note from Our Team

We built Blend because we're part of this community too. We know how hard it can be to find spaces that understand and support ethical non-monogamy. These guidelines aren't about policing—they're about creating the kind of community we all want to be part of.

If you have suggestions for improving these guidelines, we'd love to hear from you at community@blendapp.com.

Thank you for being part of Blend. Let's build something amazing together. 💜